Sia Vowed To Stay Single For The Rest Of Her Life – But Then She Surprised Fans With A Secret Family

Sia doesn’t share much with the public – most of the time, she doesn’t even show her face. But when she came on a radio show in the spring of 2020, she let slip a secret about her personal life. The singer revealed to the world for the first time that she had a family of her own.

Sia has made it her mission to keep herself out of the spotlight as much as possible. Her rise to fame happened unexpectedly after she penned the song “Titanium” for David Guetta and a certain female artist. However, when that particular singer turned down the gig, the demo version was released – with Sia’s vocals on the track.

Once she found herself in the spotlight, Sia realized she didn’t want all eyes on her. So, she started disguising herself behind over-the-top wigs that hid her face. And most of the time she ensconced her personal life just as successfully, too. However, over the years, she has revealed bits and pieces about herself to the public.

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But Sia’s May 2020 revelation left her fans stunned the world over. A lot of that came down to the timing of it, as the singer had previously stated that she planned to stay single for the rest of her life. Shortly thereafter, though, she admitted that she had a family – one she had kept just as secret as her face.

Brought into the world in 1975, Sia Furler was seemingly destined for a creative life. The Adelaide, Australia, native had an artist for a mom and a musically inclined dad. Her childhood home wasn’t always a nurturing, artistic space, though. The singer told stories of her upbringing on a 2014 episode of The Howard Stern Show.

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Specifically, Sia’s dad had a split identity, and the family dynamic would change depending on which one presented himself. She explained, “Growing up he had two very unique personalities. One was called Phil and one was called Stan… Phil was like the best dad ever… He was fun, but he was eloquent, and he was present and interesting and interested. When Stan came around stuff got scary.”

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As an adult, Sia said she had come to find her father “amusing.” She added, “I think it’s the only way to function within the relationship.” In spite of this – and the difficulties that the singer would grow up to face because of it – she was hesitant to blame her parents for any of her shortcomings.

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Although Sia had kept her family dynamic private until that interview, she had been open about her childhood drug use. The singer used marijuana heavily in her younger years, which she believed had affected her mental health more than her mom and dad. She said, “I refrain from blaming anything on my parents.”

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Sia’s father left the family to move to Sydney when she was ten years old. In spite of the distance between them, the dad and daughter had something in common – musical talent. By 17, the future “Chandelier” songstress was working as a waitress when she found out about a local soul group called Crisp.

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Crisp’s founding member Jesse Flavell recalled Sia’s entry into the band to The New York Times in 2014. He said, “She opened her voice and we all kind of stopped in our tracks. And we all felt, okay, this is going to work.” But Sia’s strong pipes didn’t come with an equally as confident personality.

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Instead, Sia’s Crisp bandmates came to see that she needed alcohol to make her feel comfortable on stage. And things only got worse for the aspiring singer when she reached her early twenties. By that time, she had departed from the band in search of a solo career. Then, she decided to move to London.

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Sia had reason to leave her home country for the English capital. You see, her boyfriend lived there. However, days before she was set to visit him, an unthinkable tragedy occurred. Her beau was hit by a taxi and killed – and the singer’s own mother had to tell her the horrific news herself.

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Sia eventually made the move to London, though, and she brought her addiction issues with her. By 2010 she had completed a quintet of solo studio albums. The songstress also wrote a hit tune for the show Six Feet Under, adding to her fame. But she also received a diagnosis of bipolar disorder, which she attempted to treat with a combination of antidepressants and painkillers. Those became additional addictions atop her pre-existing alcohol abuse.

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Touring didn’t help Sia in the slightest. Instead, she explained, “I was in the back lounge, high on Xanax and alcohol, watching every episode of E.R. from the beginning. When you’re in a different place every day, there’s this kind of madness that sets in. It’s easy to get away with getting high because everybody’s drinking on the road. None of my friends thought I was an alcoholic, and neither did I.”

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By 2010 Sia’s addictions had gotten so far out of control that she sought an end to everything. She later admitted that she purchased “two of everything” from her narcotics dealer, minus heroin or methamphetamine. The singer kept the drugs for months, preparing to end her own life – she even wrote a note.

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Luckily, a friend of Sia’s happened to call in the midst of the singer’s execution of her devastating plan. The interception gave her time to reconsider, and she chose recovery instead. As she healed, she made a life-altering creative decision in hiring a new manager. This was Jonathan Daniel, the person who encouraged her to pen lyrics for other artists’ songs.

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With Daniel’s guidance, Sia started writing pop songs, which wasn’t particularly in her wheelhouse at the time. However, the job appealed to Sia because she wouldn’t have to put herself in the spotlight as she had while touring and writing personal music. Instead, she could write simple, metaphorical music for the radio.

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Sia has written for or alongside the likes of Beyonce, Rihanna, Katy Perry, Christina Aguilera and Eminem. She worked with Britney Spears on her song “Perfume,” and the pop princess felt a close connection to the Australian artist. She said, “I fell in love with the way [Sia] looks at life. There is a bit of darkness somewhere in there, but it doesn’t come across in a frightening way.”

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In 2011 Sia wrote a song called “Titanium” for the DJ David Guetta. It took her all of 40 minutes to come up with the lyrics and melody for the tune, which she envisioned would be performed and recorded by Alicia Keys and Guetta. However, Keys turned down the chance to record – and so Guetta made a quick creative decision of his own.

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At that point, Sia had resigned herself to the fact that she was a songwriter, rather than a performer herself. But that all changed when Guetta released “Titanium” with the demo vocals – ones provided by the songwriter herself. Sia admitted to NPR in 2014, “I never even knew it was gonna happen, and I was really upset. Because I had just retired.”

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As her fame grew, Sia came up with a way to protect herself from the public eye. In 2012 or 2013, she told NPR, she decided to start wearing a signature wig that hid her face from view. The songwriter explained, “Maybe I was meditating and I thought, oh, I’ll just be the blonde bob! If Amy Winehouse is the bouffant, then I’ll be the blonde bob.”

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It was more than just a fashion-centric decision, though. Sia contributed an opinion piece for Billboard in 2013 to explain why she shrouded her face with a wig. Apparently, it all came down to her pressurized life in the public eye. She wrote, “If anyone besides famous people knew what it was like to be a famous person, they would never want to be famous.”

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Sia continued, “Imagine the stereotypical highly opinionated, completely uninformed mother-in-law character and apply it to every teenager with a computer in the entire world. Then add in all bored people, as well as people whose job it is to report on celebrities. Then, picture that creature, that force, criticizing you for an hour straight once a day, every day, day after day.”

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During a 2014 interview with Nightline’s Chris Connelly, Sia said she has no desire to be “famous or recognizable.” She went on, “I don’t want to be critiqued about the way that I look on the internet. I’ve been writing pop songs for pop stars now for a couple of years and I’ve become friends with them and see what their life is like and that’s not something I want.”

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Sia opened up even more during a 2016 appearance on The Late Late Show’s “Carpool Karaoke.” She told host James Corden, “I was an alcoholic and a drug addict. I sobered up, and I decided I didn’t want to be an artist anymore because I was starting to get a little bit famous and it was destabilizing in some way. I thought, ‘What doesn’t exist in pop music at the moment?’ And it was mystery.”

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Of course, Sia’s bob became her signature look, and it intrigued people to learn more about the woman under the hair. Interest in the Australian singer only grew as she released hit singles like 2013’s “Elastic Heart,” 2014’s “Chandelier” and 2016’s “Cheap Thrills.” In total, she has released eight solo studio albums as of June 2020.

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Despite all of her efforts to keep the public out of her personal life, Sia has let down her guard in recent years. In early 2020 she sat down for an interview with GQ alongside Diplo. The pair had formed a musical supergroup with British rapper Labrinth, calling themselves LSD.

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In the interview, Sia confessed that she had a serious attraction to her collaborator Diplo – but she tried hard to resist it. She also said that she offered the chance at a casual relationship with her. As she explained the parameters, though, she admitted something about her life that no one knew.

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Sia said, “This year I wrote [Diplo] a text, and I said, ‘Hey, listen, you’re like one of five people that I’m sexually attracted to. And now that I’ve decided to be single for the rest of my life and I just adopted a son, I don’t have time for a relationship.’”

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That was all that Sia said, but it got people talking – the singer had declared herself permanently single and also that she had adopted a son. She gave no other details about her kid. But sleuths realized that the singer had previously mentioned her desire to adopt a child in need.

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In May 2019 Sia tweeted about a particular boy who she wanted to adopt. His name was Dasani, and he starred in Foster, a documentary on HBO. The aspiring rapper had clearly touched the “Chandelier” singer’s heartstrings. She posted on the social media site, “Hey Dasani… I’d like to adopt you, we’re just trying to find you and get my house check done, et cetera.”

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Sia has since deleted the tweet about Dasani, but her followers were touched by her efforts to bring him home. One wrote, “This is beautiful, being adopted changed my life.” Another said, “No matter how young or old, we need family to carry us, laugh with us [and] love us. You learn to never take family for granted. Bless you, [Sia].”

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Although it’s unclear if Sia adopted Dasani, she has since revealed more about her family – and it isn’t a two-person unit as initially described. In a May 2020 interview with the radio station SiriusXM Hits 1, she revealed she had actually adopted two sons, both of whom had been “aging out of the foster care system.”

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Sia revealed, “They were 18, they’re both 19 years old now. They were aging out of the foster care system and yeah, I love them.” She didn’t say much more about her sons – she didn’t even share their names. But the “Elastic Heart” songstress did say that the teens were on the right track.

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On that note, Sia said, “They are both doing things that are really good for them right now, they’re doing educational stuff that is good for them.” That, plus the fact that the boys had a parent on whom they could rely, got people speaking out in support of the singer’s decision.

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In response to the story, one Twitter user wrote, “Love this. People don’t realize you do not just need parents when you are a kid. Imagine a life without family to visit. Adopting teens and mentoring young adults is so important.” Another tweeted, “This is SO important! Do you know how many teens are about to age out of foster care with absolutely no supports?”

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Perhaps purposefully, Sia released a poignantly named song in the same month that she revealed the details about her new family. The tune was called “Together,” and it served as the lead single from the songwriter’s first film Music. She wrote ten original tunes for the movie, which she penned alongside Dallas Clayton, a children’s writer.

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Music stars Kate Hudson, Leslie Odom Jr. and Maddie Ziegler. The flick has been in the making for quite some time. The team announced their prospective production at the 2015 Venice Film Festival, and it was meant to come out in October 2019. However, the release date was moved to the fall of 2020 instead.

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Sia has also revealed that she has two more studio albums finished and waiting in the wings. But they won’t hit airwaves until Music arrives in theaters. But fans have the song “Together,” as well as another May 2020 single called “Saved My Life” to tide them over in the meantime.

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And “Together” came with a message that was applicable to both the movie and Sia’s new life as a mother to two teenage boys. In the song, she sings, “Come now set the past on fire. Stand up, raise your face to the sky, my love. Together we can take it higher.”

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